A healthy, long-term relationship needs effort from both partners. While it’s important to pay attention to your partner’s needs, don’t forget your own.
Here are 10 things you should stop doing if you want to have a healthy relationship.
1. Trying to change your partner
This implies that you aren’t happy with your partner as he or she is. Accept the way they are or leave.
2. Compare your partner with others
Comparison, no matter how gently you do it, leaves your partner feeling inadequate. Instead compliment their positive qualities.
3. Invade their privacy
Avoid snooping i.e. going through their coat pockets, phone, email, etc. You might find something you don’t understand and this can lead to misinterpretations and fights.
4. Humiliate your partner
Poking fun at your partner might seem funny in the moment but when done over time can lead to low self-esteem and resentment.
5. Fail to have their back
Be your partner’s biggest cheerleader. Support all their dreams no matter how crazy. Be there to pick up the pieces when they fail.
When they face of criticism from your friends and family, defend them even if you see their point.
6. Bring up the past
If they wrong you and you discuss the wrongdoing, forgive and forget. Don’t hold grudges or use the incident as ammunition the next time you disagree.
Cheating comes in different forms from outright dating other people to subtle things like texting which seems harmless. If you feel you need to clean out your phone in case your partner finds anything, you are cheating.
8. Stop making an effort
Don’t forget the things you used to do when you had just started dating. Have a date night, surprise your partner from time to time, compliment them, pay attention to their moods, give their concerns the attention they need. Don’t ignore them even when you have had a disagreement.
9. Forget yourself
You can have shared interests with your partner but don’t forget your own interests. Have a life that doesn’t involve your partner but ensure you do it respectfully and you inform them of your whereabouts.
Allow your partner to pursue their interests as well.
10. Abandon your friends
It’s so easy to become wrapped up in your relationship and forget about your friends. Ensure you make time to meet them and avoid speaking about your partner too much when you’re with them.